Someone asked me to forgive them recently.

I don’t really know what forgiveness is. I haven’t absorbed much Christianity in my life, so I don’t have a religious understanding of it. What does it mean?

It’s not like I forget—I’m not a forgetter of grudges. I can still get angry, rehashing them, years later. But I do not wish for any ill or harm to come to this person in the future. I’m not vindictive, or a believer in revenge.

I think, maybe, I don’t deal in forgiveness the same way I try not to deal in blame. Cause and effect is critical, of course—we have to understand how and why things happened. But I consider blame and guilt irrelevant—forgiveness, perhaps, is the other side of that coin?

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